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How many kids is enough?

Published Sunday, June 24, 2007 by SaiRay | E-mail this post

Just how many kids is enough and the ideal numbered for an ordinary family. I am not talking about special privilege family or those obscenely wealthy but your average Joe. Some said 2 is nice, while others said 3 is a better number. I am not too sure myself. Ideally I would opt for 3 if I have the means financially and emotionally to be able to cope with the huge amount of see saw in life. It really takes the energy and the life out of you to be able to keep yourself up to pace with the kids. I just can't imagine those who are having half-a-dozen or at least above 4. How do they cope? Do they pay attention to their kids equally or 1 out of ppm would have defect as the proven theoretically theory. Just look around. I don't mean to say u have 1 million kids but the more quantity you have the more likely hood that there is a mutation or some kind of reduce quality.

So the big question now is, 2 or 3 or 4 is the right numbered? My first thought on this is if wifey and I have another kid, then our cute little prince will no longer be the little adorable boy he is now. He will be superseded and hence there could be lack of attention and negligence on our part. Let's face it, the youngest kid in the family tend to be pamper more than the older kids. It's always nice to be the youngest and getting all the attention and love of the parents. It's a whole different ball game for the youngest. I just can't imagine how the kids are going to interact with each other and etc. I know that kids are very versatile and naive. Nevertheless, having a little brother or sister does change the way they behave. Whether it's a big or a small changed only.

Here is what is commonly blown around by couples who are planning for a family

1. One child is too little. There will be lots of problem for the kids and parents. Selfish, loneliness, interaction with other kids and also over pampered. Likelihood of raising a spoilt brat is very high.

2. Two will be good. A nice numbered but then its just maintaining the status quote of Chinese community. Not growing the minority population. If 1 kid is male and the other female, then when they grow up, there will be some distance and lack of closeness. Worst of all, if either kid moved away from the family to live on their own or with gf or in-law (the trend of 21^st century) then it doesn't make any difference. Quiet and lack of family atmosphere especially during festival.

3. Three would be a nice numbered but then there is the financial constraint and the issue of whether quality will be compromise. This will increase work load, freedom, time and lastly physically and mentally draining.

4. Four will be over doing it. Mutation and defect is bound to occur. Out of 3 kids, 1 child is bound to be neglected and falls into the trap of "special" ones. It will be like a mini team having 24hrs party everyday at home. Total loss of peace and tranquility.

There you have it. How many are you planning to have?