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I have a problem with my sister-in law husband. Find him very fake and .......there's something which I can't pin point. Perhaps it was me too. Not very sure. You see he's older than me....way way old. I think around going to 40's. He married my sister-in law who is still in her late 20's or early 30's. The problem is I married my wife who is the eldest and hence by right in Chinese philosophy and ranking I am suppose to be elder. Do you get the mixed up or mis-match situation I am trying to explain here ?
Therefore every time the whole family have some function or dinner or something, it seem to me that he is always the spokesman, adviser.....or whatever you called it. I don't feel easy about it and neither do I feel it is right. You see if there is something going on in the family...........something important.......like appealing to get low cost houses and etc, her family will ask wifey help. So I presume with this she is place importantly since she is the eldest and the smartest around. Nevertheless, no..........it doesn't go that way. Every time there is something going on which needed a decision to be made.....her sister is the one who makes it. If not then her husband is the one who call the shot.
Therefore is it fair to say wifey and I by virtual right have no place to call any shot since I am younger in age and wiser too ? This is just like in a company organisation structure. Its communism. I don't mind not getting involved in the decision making if wifey and I don't have to pay or contribute money and etc. Nevertheless, that was not the case. We have to pay or share half-half and yet can't make any decision or say anything about it. To add salt to wound, we are suppose to be the elder if follow to Chinese practise.
I told myself this will be the last straw. In future, anything else we have to pay then you can forget about me going. I am not going to pay and yet being shove around and he behave as if he is the boss. If he wants to be the boss, then go ahead and pay the whole thing. I will be more than happy to keep quiet and eat without any complaint. I don't think I am being freckles, envy, egoistic but respect. Respect wifey as the eldest kid and respect me for being the elder uncle. Respect me and my opinion because I pay for it too.
However, I have heard that this usually occur because 1 party are weak.........weak human being and hence can't make the decision. So the stronger party will stand out and be heard as in this case. I guess I have nobody to blame except myself for marrying a weakling wifey. She can't say anything at home and she has no backboned. She doesn't talk back to her parents nor question them at all. I on the other hand are brought up according to the western culture way. Totally opposite. East and west. Nevertheless you wouldn't want to get on the wrong side of wifey and her family. They are known to be .....................psycho when the fuse snap.
On another matter my sister-in law went to HK Disneyland 2 weeks back and she had bought 2 t-shirt for my kid. First observation on the bag and the packaging........thought it was Disney merchandise but on closer scrutiny........the t-shirt tag..........jian jun......something like that...........must be some pavement store in HK or their famous Tsim Tsa Chui which sell cheap fake copy cat merchandise of Disney item. I remember when wifey and I went to NZ tour we had bought some very good original stuff for her kid. Occasionally too wifey always buy nice blouse and cloths from branded merchandise shop for her kids during CNY, Christmas and etc. She has 2 daughter and hence when wifey see a lot of nice cloths and therefore had to buy them and you know la......girls are great to be decorated with. I don't mean to sound sensitive but she's not that poor. They have a few houses, go Disney land and working for a Jap MNC and etc...............not poor but above average I would say. I just don't understand.
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